Updated: Aug 10
Weddings are a joyous occasion and a celebration shared between the bride and groom, their families, and friends. But when it comes to wedding planning, certain traditions dictate who should be involved in the planning process. For example, the bride's parents have traditionally been more heavily involved than the groom's parents. But what is the reason behind this? First, let's dive into why the groom's parents are usually not involved in wedding planning.
The Bride's Family Traditionally Takes the Lead
Historically, weddings were arranged by the bride's family and paid by them. In years past, most couples only met on their wedding day, so it was up to her family to handle all the details. Over time this became a traditional role passed down through generations. Today many couples meet before they get married and plan their weddings but still hold to tradition by having the bride's family take on most of the responsibility for planning and paying for the event.
Groom's Parents May Want To Stay Out Of It
In some cases, the groom's parents may not want to be involved in wedding planning because they don't feel comfortable taking on such an important role or want to refrain from interfering with how their son and future daughter-in-law want things done. Or perhaps they want to respect boundaries and allow others (such as close friends or relatives) to take on some responsibilities instead. Whatever their reasons may be, it is essential for everyone involved to remember that it is ultimately up to each couple how much involvement there should be from both sets of parents regarding planning a wedding.
It Is Ultimately Up To The Couple
Ultimately it is up to each couple whether or not they involve both sets of parents in the wedding planning—and if so, how much involvement there will be from each set of parents depends on each couple's unique situation. For example, some couples prefer both sets of parents (or at least one set) to take on some responsibility for making decisions regarding budgeting, venues, decorations, etc. In contrast, others would instead handle all of these details themselves without any input from either set of parents. Either way, it is essential that everyone respects each other's wishes and works together towards creating a beautiful event that will bring everyone together in celebration!
Although historically speaking, it has been more common for brides' families to be more heavily involved than grooms' families when it comes to wedding planning; today, couples have more freedom when deciding which roles each set of parents should play in their upcoming nuptials. Whether you decide you'd like your grooms' family members included or excluded from certain aspects of your wedding plans, what matters most is that everyone respects each other's wishes and works together towards creating a fantastic celebration!